I was thinking the other day about what a good man God has blessed me with! I got to thinkin': Not everyone has this in their partner. Some women do it alone- or just haven't found their Mr. Right. Some women can't communicate with their significant others as well as I can with mine. My Graduate Degree is Human Services with an emphasis in Marriage and Family Counseling.. Although, I didn't get my counseling license (because I don't want to take everyone's marriage stress home with me) I do have a passion for Communication- especially within the marriage!
So Men- Listen up- Here are a few things I am SURE your significant other would LOVE for you do to for them. You will be surprised just how much it will mean to them. Remember that---It's the LITTLE things that mean the most!!
Women-- You should do the same for your spouse sometime- if you don't already do..
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1. Tell her she is Beautiful!-- She may know she is OR she may think she's not- but hearing it from you makes all the difference in the world. Knowing that your partner finds you attractive is NEEDED in a relationship. Did you hear me? It is a necessity as a woman! Just because you said "WILL YOU MARRY ME?" or "WILL YOU DATE ME?" Doesn't mean that the chase isn't on anymore. Your woman still needs to be pursued by you ALL THE TIME!
2. Love her despite her flaws: Love is such a strong word. So is "Flaws". First and foremost, realize that no one but God is perfect. Second, Just because you may see them as flaws- doesn't mean that she does. We can all define "flaws" differently. When she is doing that thing you hate (Love her for it) She wouldn't be who she is if she didn't have those little quirks that makes her who she is- if anything, it maybe why you fell in love with her in the first place! The Bible says in Ephesians 5:25 "25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her". The Church (the PEOPLE) are not always perfect, yet Jesus loves us despite of our "Flaws".
* Love her with your whole heart- Not just some of it and not just on "date night".
3. Leave her messages: Whether it be on a post-it- on the refrigerator- in her lunch box- in her car- or on the bathroom mirror-- a random text or an old school note book paper letter- Little notes from you may brighten her whole day- It not only tells her you are thinking of her... It tells her that you took the time out of your busy schedule to do something FOR her. That in itself is huge! She loves hearing from you! Don't forget how your relationship once started. (passing notes at school- cards on valentines day etc) Notes are special to people. I still have tons of Notes my husband and I wrote to each other in high school and college! Try it!
4.Random gifts: When I say "gifts" I use that term lightly. A random gift that meant a lot to me was beef jerky and a bag of chips on my front seat when I left for work one morning. To this redneck country girl- that was AMAZING!! A gift from you doesn't have to be a ring or a piece of jewelry.. It can be a coupon for a back rub- or a random act of kindness like: breakfast in bed.. or the Laundry.
5. Kiss her on the forehead: All women love this!
6.Pray for her: One- a man that prays is HOT! Two- Knowing that you are praying for your significant other will touch her in ways that you will never be able to. I pray for my husband everyday. He doesn't know it but I do. I want his walk with God to blossom. I once heard "A woman's heart should be so hidden in Christ that a man should have to seek HIM to find HER!" Pray for your mate. It's the best thing you can do for him or her.
7. Surprise her with Dinner: No, I don't mean a fancy restaurant. For this working Mama- Dinner cooking when I walk through the door is the best thing my husband can do for me these days! Knowing that after a long day I don't have to stand on my aching feet in the Kitchen is HEAVENLY!! You can take her to dinner if you would like.. But don't over think these techniques. They can all be done in the comfort of your home!
8. (If you are Married) Go to bed at the same time: Life can be so hectic- Sometimes the talking that we do during the day consist of text messages or emails "Are you picking the children up?" "want to go to Mom's house for Dinner Sunday?" Going to bed at the same time allows you as a couple the alone time to catch up on your day to day life. Everything slows down when you can be alone (just the two of you). Don't stay up watching t.v. or working so late that you neglect each other. Precious time together is a necessity. If this is something you usually don't do- and you decide to start- I just KNOW she will appreciate that extra time with you!
9. Plan fun Trips together: I have noticed that quality time in the car together is a blast for my husband and I. It doesn't even have to be a BIG vacation. It can be a simple over night stay somewhere close by. These are the times we blare music in the car- eat junk food that we shouldn't eat- and laugh the hardest! You only live once. Make memories together!
10. Never stop pursuing her: Most people think the "I Do" is the end. Make a promise that it will be the BEGINNING! Don't be complacent in your relationship. When people get comfortable that is when mistakes happen! Women love to be chased- especially by the man that has their heart! In the words of Brad Paisleys' Country song: "Love her like she's leaving- Like it's all going to end if you don't. Love her like she's leaving- oh and I guarantee SHE WON'T" "its easy to take forever for granted with tin cans tied to your car. I know she always tells you that she all ways be there but I'm telling you if you are smart... you will love her like she's leaving- Like its all going to end if you don't.. Love her like she's leaving... and I guarantee she won't!"
"The best way to keep her...is to keep her wanting you" ~Brad Paisley
